Hello my name is Hilary Stark, owner and operator of Stark Naked.
“who you are naked, is sacred”My journey of spirituality and sexuality began at a young age –
Growing up in a small Mormon town in Northern Utah I was the non religious free spirited, sensual, outspoken little girl. The one who often ran around naked, found no shame in being connected to her body and leading from the heart and she often didn’t understand why she was often told “she didn’t fit in”!
I think this allowed for me to become a lover of the unlovable, and a magnet for all the misfits throughout most of my life!
A natural born leader, a sacred rebel and a deep old soul —
I paved my own path, and oftentimes; I did it the hard way…
I am a woman who loves love, I love to deeply feel, to connect & be felt in my relationships!
I came to realize I have been intuitively reading, feeling and understanding the blindspots, shadows and pain of humans since I was a little girl. It began with my parents, I could read their needs, emotions and feel their feelings through my own body. Often, I was trying to tend to, point out and assist them, I was unconsciously creating my own anxious avoidant relationship attachments. Although my gifts had continued to evolve, I spent a lot of my life trying to understand if I was absorbing someone else’s emotions or feeling my own!
I spent most of my teenage years and into my adult years….
Loving emotionally unavailable men, seeing their broken parts & becoming that safe space harboring their pain: unknowingly, I was deeply traumatizing myself at the same time….
falling in love with their potential, cause ya know thats what us wounded healers do a lot of our life…..
As began to navigate the underworld of promiscuity and sexuality; all in the name of love. I danced deeper with my own sexuality, my own shame, my shadows and unconscious programmed beliefs. Holding the insecurities of men,seeing their little boy parts; the ways they used money, sex, and power to feel seen and heard. Unconsciously too, they also were longing for deep love, intimacy, and a place of safety.
The stroking of men's egos, the surge of power and control - this beautiful world of me exploring all of my parts… trying on too many masks, the layering of armor, the false sense of security & the dance of duality in a world that was so taboo…
This became a playground for my greatest self exploration: The place I became the most courageous, independent, strong minded, and even more open minded —
Leaning into so many of my edges, a hidden world of wisdom; a library of a million life lessons in my own internal book! At times what felt like a magical whimsical fairytale was a burial ground for some of my deepest heartbreak and self sabotaging pain…
Until I found myself sitting across from this man…..
The reaching and longing for him to make feel whole
My codependency, enmeshment, and trauma with men was staring me in the face as I sat there in yab-yub, eye gazing- two magnificent multidimensional beings
The unconscious awarenesses becoming more conscious as he asked me deeper questions; sitting with me in my own silence and holding me so tenderly as I wept
The presence and freedom I felt as we stared into one another’s souls, the intense amount of unconditional love was palpable —-
My abandoned inner child parts were being seen, felt, heard and held for the first time by this man
I had been longing for a man to show up for me, to choose me, love me and stay with me
He had guided me back to the depths of my heart…..
He was truly just mirroring to me all the ways I was holding everyone else with so much compassion, love, tenderness & safety – And yet I had never known how to hold myself in my own!
Weaving back together my own heart, body and soul, as I danced with the shadows of my own shame and came to understand I am the bright light in the darkness of my own cave.
I have gained the knowledge and wisdom to guide men and women back to themselves, because of my own discovery of self intimacy, wholeness and heart presence! Through my own sexual reclamation and authentic expression, I am now able to help empower and hold others until they feel strong enough to lead a life that emanates their own
My journey has been paved, often feeling as the outcast, the shamed one, the one who was living the life of “taboo” – my greatest wisdom came from my wounding and my deepest depth was met in sitting with my own pain —
For I am home, now!
Unarmored. Unguarded. Unafraid.
Hilary’s mission is to create a world where we can co-exist in heart centered healing relationships, with conscious communication and free authentic sexual expression!!!
Xo